Wedding Readings

No matter where you get married there is always the hard choice of picking what to include in the ceremony. If you get married in a church, what passages or hymns to choose Or if you get married in a civil wedding what songs or vows to take.

During our ceremony i had decided to ask my two best friends to give a reading. Rather then read ones that other people have written, both wrote their own.

My amazing and sexy friend John had written a poem about Birds for us. (you will find out in future posts how obsessed i am with birds)

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Today, we here witness, 
2 birds of flight come to rest 
They join wings in marriage 
And begin to build their nest. 

Like 2 doves who mate for life, 
together forever youll be 
growing old together 
While eating worms for tea. 

Today will be the greatest, 
The happiest in your life. 
As you begin your journey, 
To love, as husband and wife 

So as i come to an end
I want to wish you this
good luck to my dear friends
and happy wedded bliss

My Wonderfully Talented friend Kayley wrote a beautiful reading about love. 🙂

Let me be the person that you walk with in the mountains.
Let me be the person that you pick flowers with.
Let me be the person… Hmm.
When I was looking for inspiration online for a wedding 
reading, I kept coming up with all sorts of romantic 
tales which really made me sound like I was rather
 a bit in love with either the bride or the groom, 
or perhaps both of you… (haha!)
 Since I’m no good at writing poetry I thought
 I would abandon the poetic love clichés!

So, being a genius(!) I turned my attention to
 socio-biology for an explanation. 
I took nuggets from Science, I turned to Socrates, 
searched the cosmos, I even followed Orpheus to meet 
with Hades… I examined mathematical equations for
 advice on what makes a successful relationship, 
and eventually I came to a few 
confuddled clinical conclusions. 
I found that marriage is a socially useful function
 and that love is a mixture of Dopamine, Serotonin, 
Oxytocin and a bit of nurture… 
and it was all getting too complicated!
but then I came across a nice little quote from 
Albert Einstein:
“Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people 
falling in love, don’t seek answers, 
where questions do
not belong. How on earth can you explain in terms 
of chemistry and
physics so important a biological phenomenon as love?”

So I scribbled all that stuff out!  And I looked again
at the things that I think makes a good relationship.

There has never been any doubt for me that Nikki
 and Chris would get married, 
because they meet every ideal that goes to make a 
solid partnership – 
they are both wonderfully quirky and random 
individuals, so different 
from everyone else, but different in the same way!
Together, above all else, 
they have a solid friendship, and their
 marriage will be an extension of this friendship.
You have known each other from the first glance of 
acquaintance to this point of commitment. 
At some point, you decided to marry. From that
 moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed,
 you have been making promises and agreements 
in an informal way. All those conversations
 that were held riding in a car or over a meal
 or during long walks — all those sentences
 that began with “When we’re married” and 
continued with “I will and you will and we will” —
 those late night talks that included “someday”
 and “somehow” and “maybe” — and all those 
promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. 
All these common things, and more, are the 
real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows 
that you are about to make are a way of saying
 to one another, “You know all those things
 we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed —
 well I meant it all, every word.” 
Look at one another and remember this moment in time.
 Before this moment you have been many things to one another
 — acquaintance, friend, companion,
 lover, dancing partner, and even teacher,
 for you have learned much from one another in these 
last few years. Now you shall say a few words 
that take you across a threshold of life, and 
things will never quite be the same between you two. 
For after these vows, you shall say to 
the world, this — is my husband, this — is my wife.

As the poet Madeleine L’Engle would say “It takes a lifetime

to learn another person… “, and that’s what I think it’s all about.