Wedding Readings

No matter where you get married there is always the hard choice of picking what to include in the ceremony. If you get married in a church, what passages or hymns to choose Or if you get married in a civil wedding what songs or vows to take.

During our ceremony i had decided to ask my two best friends to give a reading. Rather then read ones that other people have written, both wrote their own.

My amazing and sexy friend John had written a poem about Birds for us. (you will find out in future posts how obsessed i am with birds)

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Today, we here witness, 
2 birds of flight come to rest 
They join wings in marriage 
And begin to build their nest. 

Like 2 doves who mate for life, 
together forever youll be 
growing old together 
While eating worms for tea. 

Today will be the greatest, 
The happiest in your life. 
As you begin your journey, 
To love, as husband and wife 

So as i come to an end
I want to wish you this
good luck to my dear friends
and happy wedded bliss

My Wonderfully Talented friend Kayley wrote a beautiful reading about love. 🙂

Let me be the person that you walk with in the mountains.
Let me be the person that you pick flowers with.
Let me be the person… Hmm.
When I was looking for inspiration online for a wedding 
reading, I kept coming up with all sorts of romantic 
tales which really made me sound like I was rather
 a bit in love with either the bride or the groom, 
or perhaps both of you… (haha!)
 Since I’m no good at writing poetry I thought
 I would abandon the poetic love clichés!

So, being a genius(!) I turned my attention to
 socio-biology for an explanation. 
I took nuggets from Science, I turned to Socrates, 
searched the cosmos, I even followed Orpheus to meet 
with Hades… I examined mathematical equations for
 advice on what makes a successful relationship, 
and eventually I came to a few 
confuddled clinical conclusions. 
I found that marriage is a socially useful function
 and that love is a mixture of Dopamine, Serotonin, 
Oxytocin and a bit of nurture… 
and it was all getting too complicated!
but then I came across a nice little quote from 
Albert Einstein:
“Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people 
falling in love, don’t seek answers, 
where questions do
not belong. How on earth can you explain in terms 
of chemistry and
physics so important a biological phenomenon as love?”

So I scribbled all that stuff out!  And I looked again
at the things that I think makes a good relationship.

There has never been any doubt for me that Nikki
 and Chris would get married, 
because they meet every ideal that goes to make a 
solid partnership – 
they are both wonderfully quirky and random 
individuals, so different 
from everyone else, but different in the same way!
Together, above all else, 
they have a solid friendship, and their
 marriage will be an extension of this friendship.
You have known each other from the first glance of 
acquaintance to this point of commitment. 
At some point, you decided to marry. From that
 moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed,
 you have been making promises and agreements 
in an informal way. All those conversations
 that were held riding in a car or over a meal
 or during long walks — all those sentences
 that began with “When we’re married” and 
continued with “I will and you will and we will” —
 those late night talks that included “someday”
 and “somehow” and “maybe” — and all those 
promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. 
All these common things, and more, are the 
real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows 
that you are about to make are a way of saying
 to one another, “You know all those things
 we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed —
 well I meant it all, every word.” 
Look at one another and remember this moment in time.
 Before this moment you have been many things to one another
 — acquaintance, friend, companion,
 lover, dancing partner, and even teacher,
 for you have learned much from one another in these 
last few years. Now you shall say a few words 
that take you across a threshold of life, and 
things will never quite be the same between you two. 
For after these vows, you shall say to 
the world, this — is my husband, this — is my wife.

As the poet Madeleine L’Engle would say “It takes a lifetime

to learn another person… “, and that’s what I think it’s all about.

Starting your planning – The venue

There are a hundred ways to start planning your wedding and i know that every couple is different. One little bit of advice i would offer to begin with, is to sit down as a couple and first talk about how much you want to spend. Not all weddings have to cost thousands of pounds and its better to get the nitty and gritty out of the way so you can start to have fun planning your wedding.

Things to consider

Budget. How much do you want to spend, what you want to spend it on and what are the most important things to you as a couple that need to be included on your big day.

Things to include

The venue – this maybe a church and then a reception afterwards or an all day event in a building. Or even the understated registry office can be just as beautiful as a big church ceremony.

Within the venue you need to cost in not only the hire of the place but all the food and drinks packages that you want to include for your guests. (You need a rough guest list before you start booking out meals and drinks) I have found when looking around that some hotels offer amazing deals and packages that may suit people who feel that they want everything sorted under one roof. Some venues will even offer the dressing of the ceremony/reception rooms within the costs which is prefect if you feel that this could be a daunting task to take on yourself.

If your crazy like me and love to get involved you may consider hiring a public building (always check that the building is licensed to hold marriage ceremonies first. All countries have different laws).

I would suggest shopping around and seeing what you like best. Never feel like you have to yes after the viewing and always give it some tough consideration and arrange a second viewing when you have had time to think.

If your like us and the date is the most important thing then make sure you start planning early. Wedding venues can be snatched up and its really upsetting if the place you had set in your heart is given to someone else.

My wedding venue 

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After looking around i came across the Blue Coat Chambers in Liverpool city centre (not to far from where we met) I am a photographer and chris is a a sound engineer and the Blue Coat Chambers work a lot within the art community and support a number of projects within Liverpool. As the Blue Coat is also a gallery i loved the idea of having a piece of my personality in the venue.

It it always worth considering checking out the not so main stream venues in your area as sometimes you may find a beautiful hidden gem on your own door step.

Chris – Another thing to consider about the venue is the timing. When do want your ceremony to start. What time do you want the day to finish. Some venues in residential areas may close earlier than others. This is something so small but can make a huge impact on the day.

For anyone in Liverpool reading this, heres a link to some of the venues me and Chris have looked at

(PINTEREST CAN BE YOUR BEST TOOL IN WEDDING PLANNING!!)

I forgot to add before….

REGISTRAR- If you are getting married outside of a religious ceremony you nearly always need to organise your own registrar. You can find out more about this by looking on your local council website.