No matter where you get married there is always the hard choice of picking what to include in the ceremony. If you get married in a church, what passages or hymns to choose Or if you get married in a civil wedding what songs or vows to take.
During our ceremony i had decided to ask my two best friends to give a reading. Rather then read ones that other people have written, both wrote their own.
My amazing and sexy friend John had written a poem about Birds for us. (you will find out in future posts how obsessed i am with birds)
Today, we here witness, 2 birds of flight come to rest They join wings in marriage And begin to build their nest. Like 2 doves who mate for life, together forever youll be growing old together While eating worms for tea. Today will be the greatest, The happiest in your life. As you begin your journey, To love, as husband and wife So as i come to an end I want to wish you this good luck to my dear friends and happy wedded bliss
My Wonderfully Talented friend Kayley wrote a beautiful reading about love. 🙂
Let me be the person that you walk with in the mountains. Let me be the person that you pick flowers with. Let me be the person… Hmm. When I was looking for inspiration online for a wedding reading, I kept coming up with all sorts of romantic tales which really made me sound like I was rather a bit in love with either the bride or the groom, or perhaps both of you… (haha!) Since I’m no good at writing poetry I thought I would abandon the poetic love clichés! So, being a genius(!) I turned my attention to socio-biology for an explanation. I took nuggets from Science, I turned to Socrates, searched the cosmos, I even followed Orpheus to meet with Hades… I examined mathematical equations for advice on what makes a successful relationship, and eventually I came to a few confuddled clinical conclusions. I found that marriage is a socially useful function and that love is a mixture of Dopamine, Serotonin, Oxytocin and a bit of nurture… and it was all getting too complicated! but then I came across a nice little quote from Albert Einstein: “Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love, don’t seek answers, where questions do not belong. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as love?” So I scribbled all that stuff out! And I looked again at the things that I think makes a good relationship. There has never been any doubt for me that Nikki and Chris would get married, because they meet every ideal that goes to make a solid partnership – they are both wonderfully quirky and random individuals, so different from everyone else, but different in the same way! Together, above all else, they have a solid friendship, and their marriage will be an extension of this friendship. You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks — all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will” — those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” — and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed — well I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another — acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you two. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this — is my husband, this — is my wife.
As the poet Madeleine L’Engle would say “It takes a lifetime
to learn another person… “, and that’s what I think it’s all about.